Contemplating the decision to cohabitate with your partner is an important step in the progression of a
Maybe you're interested in couples therapy but still have some concerns...
What if you take my partner’s side and I get all the blame?
LGBTQ couples therapy is not about the blame game or who wins or loses, and my role is not of judge or jury.
Our work together is about finding the deeper feelings, thoughts, and values that cause people to struggle in their relationships . I am also here to give couples new ways to communicate with each other that get these needs met, rather than sparking another argument about who’s wright or wrong.
It can be hard to admit to ourselves that there are ways we are contributing to painful dynamics, especially when we think that if our partner “could only stop/start doing XYZ,” all our problems would go away.
However, relationships are not healed with blame or shame. They are healed by finding the self-compassion to understand why we think, feel and behaves in ways that end up hurting ourselves and our partner and by using this insight to enjoy life and love more.